So the topic of the day is paranoia.
Why are people so paranoid?
I have the answer...because people cant be trusted!
When you are in a relationship I dont think people want to be paranoid, but we live in a world of cheaters and decievers and its very hard to tell if people are being honest anymore.
We live in a world that people lie to us on a constant basis and smile in your face, but when your not around all type of ish is going on.
Or maybe not. Maybe nothing is going on...maybe you have the perfect boyfriend/girlfriend and that person would not betray you at all.
That is the one thing that is so hard to do, is to trust someone again after they betrayed it.
In my relationship my current boyfriend in the beginning had me believing that he was so innocent. Like literally I never had anything to worry about, because he would be all on me and call me all hours of the day and want to be around me on a constant basis.
He did something a while ago and I am not going to go into detail, but from that day I never fully trusted him again. Everytime his phone goes off sometimes, especially a text, I am ultra paranoid...
I am paranoid of the unknown. I dont like what I cant see. I dont like assuming things either, but sometimes honestly I cannot help it. I went from I 100% trusted him to now I am 50% trust 50% on edge.
So yes I confess that I am paranoid. Very and it hurts sometimes because I really dont want to be this way, but what can I do. There are females in this world who do not care that my man is in a relationship with me. Its so competitive out here with the female to male ratio (especially in my city) of 20:1 that girl will go out their way to break up a happy home just so that they can have someone.
But as I said before, I do want to trust because I dont want to live my life stress out if there is something fishy going on. Hopefully I can get like I did before. Trust need to be regained.
They say people are paranoid because they have something to hide themselves. Not me! I am not doing anything and that is what make it worst. I am completely honest and sometimes I feel like my honesty and faithfulness gets taken for granted.
But let me stop running my mouth. Things are good but you know...you hit bumpy roads in your relationships sometimes. That is life and you live, love, and learn.
Why are people so paranoid?
I have the answer...because people cant be trusted!
When you are in a relationship I dont think people want to be paranoid, but we live in a world of cheaters and decievers and its very hard to tell if people are being honest anymore.
We live in a world that people lie to us on a constant basis and smile in your face, but when your not around all type of ish is going on.
Or maybe not. Maybe nothing is going on...maybe you have the perfect boyfriend/girlfriend and that person would not betray you at all.
That is the one thing that is so hard to do, is to trust someone again after they betrayed it.
In my relationship my current boyfriend in the beginning had me believing that he was so innocent. Like literally I never had anything to worry about, because he would be all on me and call me all hours of the day and want to be around me on a constant basis.
He did something a while ago and I am not going to go into detail, but from that day I never fully trusted him again. Everytime his phone goes off sometimes, especially a text, I am ultra paranoid...
I am paranoid of the unknown. I dont like what I cant see. I dont like assuming things either, but sometimes honestly I cannot help it. I went from I 100% trusted him to now I am 50% trust 50% on edge.
So yes I confess that I am paranoid. Very and it hurts sometimes because I really dont want to be this way, but what can I do. There are females in this world who do not care that my man is in a relationship with me. Its so competitive out here with the female to male ratio (especially in my city) of 20:1 that girl will go out their way to break up a happy home just so that they can have someone.
But as I said before, I do want to trust because I dont want to live my life stress out if there is something fishy going on. Hopefully I can get like I did before. Trust need to be regained.
They say people are paranoid because they have something to hide themselves. Not me! I am not doing anything and that is what make it worst. I am completely honest and sometimes I feel like my honesty and faithfulness gets taken for granted.
But let me stop running my mouth. Things are good but you know...you hit bumpy roads in your relationships sometimes. That is life and you live, love, and learn.
Here is Kanye West's new video "Paranoid". Rhianna looks like she is still in the "Disturbia" video. Interesting...
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You know what i addressed this same subject a month or so ago and just think it's natural to have a little doubt cause you can never really know someone even if you with them 60 years. I am now taking on the trust them till they make you not attitude but even thats hard cause i ask a million questions that come in threes...like where did you go, with who, why? lol
i've had these moments and caused these moments. but you know what, in the end, being paranoid brings you nothing but unecessary stress. i know its hard to quit the habit. believe me i know cause i still have moments, and its hard to overcome, especially when you are doing your best and you can't be sure the other person is doing the same. but i figure, if you care about your happiness, you just focus on you and then you'll be happy no matter how things turn out. cause all that stress is not worth it unless you make decisions based on it.
Your post inspired my latest post so i linked up to u from my blog.
www.adivasrainbow.blogspot.com
^^^ Thank you everyone for your responses! I am trying my damnest not to be so paranoid!
I have to balanace each paranoid thought with a thought of trust.
i definitely feel where your coming from with this blog, i trusted my ex boyfriend so much that i ley him party with his ex's and just one crazy text made me paranoid to the point of no return.
You sooooo right!!!! My only problem is that I've carried this paranoia over into over relationships. :(
OMG I feel the EXACT same way. I've always been completely honest and faithful, but my bf messed up once and I havent been able to trust him fully since. I'm sooo paranoid. I'll check his emails, fb, myspace, just wherever to try and find out info. And yea, I completely agree with the girl ratio situation. They really don't care these days if a boy has a gf. They'll do whatever it takes to get him. Now me, never would I keep pursuing a boy who says he has a gf. It's not that serious but girls are different these days.
I can't really give much advice about being paranoid because I'm exactly the same. The trust issue is normal; some ppl just hide it better
Been throught the same thing. It will take time but a day will come when you will trust him again. Love prevails over everything.
OMG I so LOVE you for doing this post it really hit home. Matter of fact I needed to read this post this past wknd instead of NOW. Everything you said is so true. Thats why I like the blogging world bc their is always someone feeling just like you are. I feel just like you. My byfrnd & I have been together 2yrs this month, I know that I am as honest as can be ALWAYS & that Im not hiding anything. But like you said sometimes a guys actions can lead to the woman being paranoid. A guy will mistake a woman being paranoid for her being insecure. I dont think were insecure, I think that we just dont to be taken for granted. & we as women want to feel like were receiving as much as were putting out.
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